UNANSWERED

It's time to discuss this matter.  It's time to get down to business and call people out.  

If you are not an adult you get a pass.  If you are an adult it's time to man up or woman up- if you prefer that phrase.

Have you ever heard somebody say, "no response is a response."  I hear that statement and say it all the time.  I don't want to hear it anymore; I don't want to use it anymore.  While no response is a kind of response an actual response would be nice.  An actual response is better.  There is too much pressure and sometimes pain involved when I or anyone has to figure out what your lack of response really means...

 Don't leave me standing in the room looking at you wondering if I actually asked the question out loud.  Don't have me checking my sent mail to see if I actually sent that email.  Don't have me looking at my phone seven days after the fact because you haven't replied to the text I sent you seven days ago.  Just respond in a decent amount of time after initial contact is made.  Yeah you may be busy, you may be.  However it is dead wrong to all of a sudden become available when you have to contact me because you need me to answer your question.  

It's awkward when I have to ask, "did you get my text?"  Really awkward when we both know you did and you try to find a way to say that you didn't but in the end you can't because it's 2011 and communication methods are too advanced for your lies...

If you're in the early stages of dating someone and they don't respond to your communication- who cares?  It's clear what that is.  He or she is not into you as they say.  I mean sometimes you find yourself wondering why but in the end it doesn't matter because it shouldn't.  

If you are dear friends, husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, or business partners of some kind or siblings or have any kind of meaningful relationship the lack of response becomes offensive and insulting especially when you pretend a question wasn't asked or a topic wasn't put on the table for discussion.  

People ask you questions and want information because, whatever the subject is, it matters to them.  Have some respect give a response.  Even if you say, "I don't want to talk about this right now" or "I don't know how to respond to that."  It doesn't matter what your answer is -BUT DON'T BE SILENT OR LEAVE COMMUNICATION UNANSWERED.  It's not fair and it hurts.

Grow some balls or some breasts, be an adult and simply say, "I need to talk about this later," or "I don't know the answer to that," or "No," or "I can't make up my mind," or "I don't like you," or " You make me sick," or "Get out of my face,"  or whatever it is you are feeling but DON'T BE SILENT OR LEAVE COMMUNICATION UNANSWERED.