Fact: MinDog loves her husband and loves being married.
Because of that fact she enjoys reading books that provide insight, tools and basic information about the strength of commitment. How to make it better, how to express it, how to do whatever it takes to keep a relationship moving forward...
I mentioned in an earlier post that when she reads these books the most natural thing for her to do is pass them on to me and make me read them. It's either that or she'll tell me what it said word for word. So the way I look at it, I might as well just read it and then we can have a decent dialogue about what we've both read.
The good thing about those books is that the information tends to be applicable to all types of relationships...
THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES is one of the books she had me read a few years ago and somehow it's on my mind this morning. In a round about way, but it's on my mind.
The five love languages are: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, QUALITY TIME, RECEIVING GIFTS, ACTS OF SERVICE, and PHYSICAL TOUCH.
Of course the book comes with a quiz that you take to figure out what your primary love laguage is. The premise is that sometimes in relationships we think we are doing right by a person but we are not. We usually operate from a place of what we want and how we would want to be treated(our primary love language), and pay no attention to the fact that the person on the other side may have a completely different primary love language...me giving a gift to someone who just wants quality time is not good at all, it's not what that person is looking for...
Anyway- when she gave me the book I knew immediatley that my primary love language was RECEIVING GIFTS...I took the quiz...I was wrong. So wrong. RECEIVING GIFTS was actually fourth on my list. I was shocked! I love gifts, I love things, I love receiving things, I LOVE GIFTS, I love giving gifts because of how I feel when I get them...I know if I give someone a thoughtful gift they will feel so good...because when I get thoughtful gifts I feel so good...I usually cry...even if it's a card I cry or am on the verge of crying(most of the time secretly)...so when I say I was shocked to find out that according to this quiz it wasn't my primary love language I mean it! I was SHOCKED!
Of course I called MinDog and told her and what does my fake life coach say? "That makes so much sense...it's all clear now." WHAT THE WHAT? Then she started in with the, 'that's why this and that's why that." It did all make sense. I hate to admit it but the book was right. The more we talked about what I had learned about myself, from taking what I thought was a silly relationship book quiz, the more some of the choices I had made up to that point made sense...
Why is the book on my mind this morning?
It's on my mind because everyday I turn the light in my room on and off. Everyday I look at a framed quote that hangs above my light switch. It's a quote that was given to me as part gift in 2006, by Liesl Allen Yeager. A quote I'm sure everyone has come across at some point...out of all the quotes in the world she picked this one. It's a Lawrence of Arabia quote that was so appropriate for the time it was given to me and really, it's appropriate for my life.
All people dream, but not equally.
Those who dream by night in the dust recesses of their mind,
Wake in the morning to find that it was vanity.
But the dreamers of the day are dangerous people,
For they dream their dreams with open eyes,
And make them come true.
-T.E. Lawrence
When I left my room this morning to begin the day's routine I read it and thought to myself- what a good gift she gave me. I love good, thoughtful gifts. I love people who give good thoughtful gifts...that thought triggered the memory about THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES.
I'm still shocked that RECEIVING GIFTS isn't my primary love language.
It makes sense but I'm still shocked!
1 comment:
I loved this post. Simply loved it. Now I want to read the book.
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